All emotions and feelings are beautiful, I mean really everything is. Anger can be great, fear can be a warning from our body.
I never understood why we have labeled certain emotions good or bad, judged them as the cause for our life’s pain. What if it is not the feelings and emotions but the way we choose to experience them? What if we were always open so everything comes in and everything comes out?
Everything is energy or whatever word you prefer to use. An open heart, nothing can harm it unless we try to control it and take away the natural flow of life. Allow your heart, your body, your emotions to be. There is only fluidity in them, pain can be an awesome tool! If we have already judged it though when we feel it, it solidifies it and it no longer is energy, like wind floating around…it becomes a rock blocked, unmoving, trapped. It has no escape. It becomes something else. The natural movement and rhythm of your body is stopped. Now it needs to grap your attention huffing and puffing… banging to get out. “I don’t like that feeling” you say, you deny it, blame it for making you feel uncomfortable, not nice.
So now it must speak louder. You begin to suffer and deny it even more without acknowledging that it is you, part of you, it’s your body desiring your attention, your care to be who you are. That’s all it is….a piece of you( and I am not talking about when we are picking up on other people’s emotions and they are not ours, that I will post about another time). No matter how much you push it away it will follow you everywhere. Even though this might be surprising: We cannot run away from ourselves you know.
Emotions then come in the way of caring, the one affects the other. Whenever a part of self is suppressed it will affect, our caring for others as we are not caring for ourselves. That solidifying breaks that openness.
Look at children or babies. They are upset, they express it , and it usually lasts a few minutes. A baby will scream crying its eyes out and ten minutes later be giggling and smiling. It is able to smile after and feel as if nothing happened because the emotion came, it felt it, expressed it, and released it. If it had not it would just build up. The baby’s smile becoming less and less each time. The weight becoming heavier and heavier. It is so simple.
What do we do usually do to children though immediately when a feeling arises? We become uncomfortable, diving into our selves, we cannot handle it, so we try to stop it “don’t cry” we say. We get angry because we don’t know what to do. It scares us as we feel helpless. In turn the child thinks he did something wrong expressing it. Feelings become a bad thing. Crying, being upset, angry, sad it is all taught to be “wrong.” Emotions have become a “bad” thing. No more a natural part of life. We begin to fear them, judge them… avoid them. A part of us is suppressed and we are not whole.
A small knot in our bodies that only gets larger and larger unless we release it. The bigger it becomes the more uncomfortable we become, the more difficult to release it. It is not an alien creature, an enemy trying to harm us, it is us…it is us caring for ourselves. It is our beauty, our sensitivity, vulnerability…our gift of being human. We have just learned that it is bad, in turn that we are bad, guilt comes along for feeling something because of course you should not be feeling that! Guilt so we deny it, or we explode , express it and then feel worse inside for making the other person feel bad.
The belief that emotions are bad becomes stronger. They are harmful now. However the explosion is the large pile of built up emotions over years maybe even from childhood finally finding a release. Of course on the wrong person and situation. Maybe if we were aware of it we could laugh about it, laugh at ourselves, use it to dive deeper into the discovery of self rather than closing it off even more. What if the emotion just is?
Man will we ever learn?
How come there is no war among animals? No blame, no shame? Uuummm…because they feel something they show it. It is what it is. A wolf cub bites its mother, the mother turns around grabbing it by the neck growling. The cub continues joyfully on its journey, the mother too. There is no suppression, judgment of feelings. They are who they are, not who they think they should be or act…and so they are happy. They are being. There is peace. There is no disharmony. Be fearing our emotions, our self, judging them we deny the other theirs as well and we continue this insane cycle keeping the world’s madness going. Are you ready to let go of the madness? The suppression? The war on emotions, feelings, and life? Yourself? Your nature? Your being? Your existence????
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