Sex: Allowing Our Body to Lead


What if the” key,” to sex is being able to be ourselves at that moment, allowing our body to speak for itself, to guide the process, and leaving the mind behind? That’s what it comes down to. We have sex with our minds not with our bodies, it is 80% mind 20% body, and there is a massive difference. We have sex the way we think we should, what we think is the “correct” process, what we think the other person wants, or needs, what we have been taught right? By those cultural, societal, and universal beliefs and ideas?  It is the boundaries of our minds, whether placed there by society, held there by ourselves, or the reservations of the other, that deny us our true pleasures in life. Spending too much time in those beliefs hindering us from true expression of our emotional arousal and actually enjoying ourselves, and the experience with another, we rob ourselves the true essence of what love making is all about. There is nothing to think about, if we let the energy flow through feeling, breathing, and being present in the moment with our senses guiding us to endless ecstasy. Our bodies know. Yet we block that freedom, that flow. Most humans do not know what this feeling is because they haven’t experienced it with themselves.


We come in with all these judgments, conclusions, and expectations.  We do not allow our bodies to take the lead, to allow them to communicate between each other. I wonder what would be possible then?

Sex could almost be like the ultimate form of being you, because that power now is double, it is amplified, two people being themselves forget it, that is sex at its best! Ecstasy beyond reality maybe one of the most amazing experiences ever. An intimacy which does not necessarily need time to reach it with the other, you could have it with a stranger, and just from the first time. Perhaps it is easier for people then because the mind is not playing so much of a role, it is spontaneous, it is unexpected, we do not have time to create those barriers, those walls, fears, insecurities, and judgments. It is “safer,” and then we begin bringing all these conclusions and judgments.


This is possible yet only works if both are being themselves, because if the one isn’t and cutting off pieces of themselves the flow is broken, there is no flow, only stagnation. There’s a flow one second then it stops, then goes, then stops. The body’s freedom has been limited. After all it is about the body’s pleasure isn’t’ it?


I personally achieve this feeling sensation whatever you would like to call it through dance, and through other means as well, but at that level the highest level, I have reached through dance. In sex it is a whole another level, to share that we another human being.  Yes we  do not need the other person to reach that level where our body takes the lead, where nature truly takes its course, and one second to the next is unexpected, where we are truly being ourselves, where there is nothing but being, and ecstasy. We mostly have a few moments here and there through different means, and while having sex.  It is about living through your body, rather than through the world, living through you, not the matrix.

We CAN have that intimacy with ourselves and our bodies, how about achieving it double though? To share that with another person?  What a gift it is to be yourself TOGETHER, and in full acceptance of each other? The bodies just go crazy. Now that’s ecstatic and powerful it’s an amplification of that ecstasy, that feeling times a thousand! Yes we can feel it on our own yet that is quite something to achieve that with another. Our happiness does not depend on it, and we can share this with people, with moments here and there in other ways but what if we could do that with sex as well? Is it not something profoundly beautiful?

How many people want to let go of control? Control of the mind I mean? Because that is actually when we truly have control, that is when we finally achieve control. We give our body control not the outside world, it is truly us, not the illusion of control by the mind.

Maybe that is why people are so attracted to sex because it is a means of allowing the body to finally speak and BE, we can’t do it on our own so we need the other, yet we go about it as not self. We don’t truly have sex as ourselves, only partly.

I always have had this intimacy with myself, many do,  I love being with myself more than anyone, I laugh, I have a great time, I am complete. So what about achieving that with someone else?  What if we could share that with another? Being our self with another, now that is a fun challenge!  To achieve this with another, not using the other, not needing the other, but choosing to be, and share our self  whether it is for just a few moments, a few years, or a lifetime.  Whether we have that intimacy with ourselves doesn’t really matter in this case because it s a two way process, and doesn’t mean we will share our being with the other or receive the other.

Sex is one means of being our self and giving our body expression, allowing it to speak and breathe but most times we get lost in the other, we are interacting and conditioning each other at that moment, this is natural. Inadequacies, insecurities, fears, and so we block ourselves from being and receiving. It is a whole nother level to do it as us to truly feel it, and be it.

Not many people achieve this because we are not taught it as a possibility; we are going in fixed with our mind, not open or receptive as to what it could be.

What if we remained in our own bodies, within ourselves while having sex? Even better why limit ourselves? What if we went beyond and had an outer body experience?

I wonder….

Did you ever feel you were going to explode?

Being you is easy but being beyond yourself with another being now that is magic!!!!  An opening into a new realm, a merging. In that sexual environment allowing the other to be, no judgment, being nurtured by each other for that, desiring that for each other,  being in full allowance of self, and the other, and actually encouraging the other no matter what that might be, and the circumstances, and then bringing that into the sex…BOOM!


Here is to more of this in 2017!!!!



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